Who am I really


: Mon, 01 Feb 2021

Have you ever asked yourself, ‘Who am I really?’ “ Why Am I even here?” “Do I have a choice in how I would like to experience life” Why am I supposed to be on this earth?”How many times have you questioned your very existence? For me, the answer is countless times.

It makes perfect sense to seek a deeper sense of self to become intimately aware of our thoughts, feelings, hopes, fears, values beliefs, tendencies, and all. Generally the “answer” to “who am I” is our identity. Our identity is our all-encompassing system of memories, experiences, feelings, thoughts, relationships, and values that define who each of us is. But soon we realize that we have multiple identities and all our identities, everything we believe ourselves to be, are all dependent on something or someone else. And not just that, Each role has its own meanings and expectations that are internalized as identity.

We simply internalize the values of our parents or the dominant cultures (e.g., the pursuit of materialism, power, and appearance). Sadly, these values may not be aligned with one’s authentic self and create an unfulfilling life.
The irony is that the more we seek to identify who we are, the more fragile we are likely to feel about ourselves. The answers to our questions depend upon the ease with which we experience our lives. 

Since much of our identity was not chosen by us, it becomes inorganic and this inorganic identity causes us to experience a tremendous amount of stress.
We come to know that “that identity” is false. It’s something demanded of us. But even this is not the real problem. The problem is that we don’t know what our “organic” identity is, our authentic self is.

We see that people who have successfully found their authentic selves seem to be far happier and more content as they are able to live a meaningful life true to their values. Yet if we are struggling a lot to figure out who we are can have side effects of depression and everything in life seeming meaningless.
Wouldn’t it be good then instead of asking who am I, we contemplated on how we'd like to engage life?

This would help us become aware of the fact that our identities are not static but ever-changing, evolving, and dynamic. The goal then is to access our potential, keeping the parts of our identity that continue to serve us well and shedding the old, habitual pieces that constrain us.

Let's embrace a flowing sense of self, whereby we are perpetually re-framing, re-organizing, re-thinking, and re-considering ourselves. We would fare much better if we devote ourselves to the unfolding process of life. Witnessing our thoughts, not reacting out of old habits, and becoming present enables us to better craft our lives. 
So in our journey of self-discovery, let’s remember to take a step back and reflect on ourselves.

Once we have reflected upon ourselves and discovered our authentic selves, we can live life through active choosing, exploration, and positive disintegration to finally make ourselves the people we have always hoped to become. We findbalance between the extremes and enter into a relationship with self that commits to our personal evolution

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